To all CLPSS Attendees
« Thread started on: Jul 17th, 2010, 3:10pm »
Message to all the CLPSS Participants:
Jay Sri Krishna
The much anticipated convention is only few days away. Are you ready for an entertaining, enlightening and uplifting weekend? We look forwarding to seeing you.
As it is customary at all youth conventions we will be addressing the needs of those who are in marriageable age. And I have volunteered this year to give you a wake up call with the hope that few of you will leave for home and get on the mission. I am scheduled to speak on Saturday 9 AM. So if you are going to party hard on Friday night you may not be in a able to come to my red eye session.
For past several years I have made this a mission to assist anyone who is negotiating the tough road to find the soul mate. I am keenly aware of the difficulties faced by your generation as when you engage in the search for your future spouses.
The problem is that you are playing this game with no rules, no referees and no time limit. Your do it your-self approach assisted by Barbaadi.com etc has left many of you bruised and some of you are frustrated. Many of you are now jealous of your parents generation when there was what they called arranged marriages (you called them deranged marriages!)
A subset of the attendees are what I would call non-shoppers their parents may get all excited in the anticipated good news but they have no intention to make any commitment at this point in their life. By going to CLPSS or barbaadi.com they can make a case to the parents that they indeed making efforts.
The next group is the window shoppers. These are the people who go to various events and sites with a feeling that may be they will find some one perfect and rest will follow.
Of course some of you are what can be better described as the 'comparison shoppers' these are the people who are already dating someone who is somewhat acceptable but not quite perfect to move to the next stage. They go to various events and sites without telling the other person. Their prospect may think that CLPSS is biennial refresher course on Patel culture!
These attendees non-shoppers, window shoppers and comparison shoppers by and large have a great time. There is no pressure. If something clicks than fine otherwise there will be another convention in 2012!
There is another category of the CLPSS participants. They have been ready to find the mate and move on. They have seriously gone with anyone suitable set up by friends and family. They regularly surfed various website with activity rating nearly hundred percent. The convention cannot come soon enough for them. This is their opportunity to meet largest number of eligible prospects with the similar cultural values and likely to be more acceptable to the family. They have been at the game for sometime and now waking up to the reality that matchmaking is extremely difficult process. They have their own sad stories to share. This group is what I call 'Seriously Looking.' This is the group I am really focused on assisting. If you or any one you know is in that category please fill free to contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org. Those who are seriously looking should make every effort to connect with others as soon as possible before coming to the convention.
Read the following post if you're serious
« Reply #1 on: Jul 17th, 2010, 3:19pm »
Welcome to my mission in changing the paradigm in desi spousal search and bring some sanity to the process.
As you know I am on a mission to give a wake call to our entire community and sound the alarm bell that inaction is not an option. We may be witnessing the deterioration of 'Desi Family Life' as we knew it.
This is a grass root movement and from time to time I would bother you to help me spread my message. Also it is important for you to know that I am an 'out of box thinker' so it would help you to read about or listen to my radical thoughts posted here and on my own blog.
Over the last 9 months I am humbled by the support from all of you who have help energize me in my mission.
Seriously looking people behave differently. They are always focused on the mission. I am working on how to identify others who are also seriously looking and you can bring conversation to much higher levels than usual - hi how are you? At this time those who have said they are seriously looking have a separate picture taken with me and that should be your hint. It is ok to approach them and ask, hey are you seriously looking? And if the answer is affirmative feel free to talk to them and use my infra red dating ideas in learning about the core of that person.
Join me on Face Book Vijayuncle = First name and Mehta = Last name Or search me by email@example.com Post your profile for others in my private or public album. Private album is seen by only those who are seriously looking. Review your profile and feel free to contact who in your opinion seems like a match. Here is the template http://vmehta.conforums3.com/index.cgi?board=marriage&action=display&num=1269553584 -------------------------- Spread the word: If you know others who are seriously looking bring them to me and we shall add them to our list. -------------- Let us feel free to approach others who may be seriously looking: If you see anyone you might be interested in point them out to me and I will politely approach them and find out if he/she is open to talking to you also. ----------------- Pay it forward: Suppose someone approaches you who is seriously looking but in your eyes he/she is not a match for you than do a good deed by recommending who may be a perfect match for him/her. I want this to be a people helping people movement. -------------------------- Those who are seriously looking can join me on the face book letting me know how they found out about me and use my email address firstname.lastname@example.org to find my profile. --------------------------
My Blog which can be read by anyone at http://vmehta.conforums3.com/index.cgi?board=marriage -------------------------- For the past nine months I have been reaching out to those who are seriously looking and are frustrated with the process. I am here to provide any help I can all you have to do is contact me. If you are now is serious mode let us discuss your strategy for success and re evaluate the progress or lack thereof periodically.
I am also giving wake call to those who are in window shopping or comparison shopping or just casual dating mode - once you reach a certain point in your life it is time to move to the next phase of life. Procrastination does have serious consequences.
If you have question or comment about anything feel free to contact me at email@example.com. Since I have no life I am usually pretty prompt in responding to you.