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xx To the fathers of new millennium
« Thread started on: Jun 20th, 2004, 11:42am »

Today is Father's day and all across the United States sons and daughters will celebrate it, usually by making a phone call, sending a card or a gift to dad.

But a true tribute to the fathers may be to recognize the value of fatherhood. A real celebration may be the renewed commitment by our sons to be the father that plays pivotal role in his children's life.

On this Father's Day, some 24 million American children will sleep in fatherless homes. For all of us who value the role of a father this should be of a grave concern. Even though this stastic do not represent our Desi community, we need to focus our energy to ensure that this never happens.

The challange on the horizon is for us to maintain our phenomenal success outside our homes but at the same time preserve our family values at home. The hardest thing for us to do is to break a stereotype that a "macho man" is equated to a successful man.

We have to raise our sons so they see respecting women or helping on family chores as characteristics of a true man. Compromising or communicating with your wife does not make you "joruka gulam" but a sensible father.

Men who succeed in business or in a profession are not true successes until they become men who are faithful and respectful to their wives and children. The true success of a man ought to be when his wife and children can honestly state that "I had the best husband or dad anyone can have!"

So on this Father's day my question to all the young men out there is, "are you ready for the challenge?"

Vijay Uncle
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« Last Edit: Jun 20th, 2004, 11:50am by Vijay Mehta » User IP Logged

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xx Re: To the fathers of new millennium
« Reply #1 on: Jun 21st, 2004, 12:11pm »

I think your message is very touching. Fathers do a lot for family and all. I think more people should emulate their fathers who are strong, well-rounded, and smart, very giving, and all. I think many young men should think about marriage responsibilities and children, even if they donít get married anytime soon. They should picture and see their own mom and dad and other people who took care of them like grandparents and see and learn from them. I was watching a movie called Bagbhan and it talks about family issues. Itís really moving and I think should be watch. I see today many families with many problems. I wonder about our future. Sometimes I wonder should I get married in India or not seeing todayís guys getting involved with many women and other activities. I wonder if guys picture getting married and having and raising kids. I donít understand todayís' guys. It makes us good ladies wonder if we have to go foreign to find a suitable match or good humble person. I know there are many guys here that are good, but where are they. This message by the uncle is moving and guys should take charge and all.
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« Reply #2 on: Jun 21st, 2004, 12:20pm »

I see many guys having girl friends and replacing them. I see many people dating. It does surprize many of us. I read in the confused Desi parents or kids how clubs do make some people turn out bad. How girls and guys are supposed to stay committed when they have date once or many times before married. What do they have for their spouse and all? It makes people vulnerable for divorce, being unfaithful, leaving family and kids. In the religions it says donít date, wait for the person God wants you to be married, marriage is a big responsibility and sacred. If you have previous relationships in your life before marriage, it doesnít make the marriage strong, because you shared similar experiences with some else before. It makes you think of the past. I think guys and girls shouldnít date and build good values while being single and just crush rather than jumping into a relationship. Itís worth waiting.
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« Reply #3 on: Jul 10th, 2004, 8:24pm »

that's real nice to mention that our father's are special. more people need to read this section. huh
more young guyz need to read this. it's good lessons. grin
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« Reply #4 on: Jul 15th, 2004, 1:25pm »

The fellas and ladies need to read this hint hint!!
too many aint thinking long term and ya should just lil
marriage is a big responsibilty ?
you gotta know what ya gettin into b4 saying i do
u gotta be well educated & be able to handle a house or apt
bills & otha thingz ahead
u have to have ur life and head in da right direction to handle this
not everyone can handle the work & all
you got the right idea
i know at least u'll do fine gurl grin
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xx Re: To the fathers of new millennium
« Reply #5 on: Feb 20th, 2009, 11:48am »

Just by earning money does not make man a father. Fatherhood is a big responsibility. U go to work 8 hrs, when u come home, ur children are waiting for u play with u, to tell u about their days, what happened in school. Even after ur tiring day, u have to be ready to listen to their talk. You have to have good amount of patience. And your children are learning from you, specially boys in the family. If you respect your wife, he will learn to respect his wife, If you help your wife with house chores, he will grow up learning to help his wife.
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