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xx What exactly is a "problem" child?
« Thread started on: Aug 20th, 2005, 3:32pm »

I was intrigued by the posts on this site.

Let me give some background.

I am a physician, finishing my residency. I graduated from Ivy league schools. I guess I'd be every Indian parents dream...

But, I do like to go out and have drinks. I've gotten drunk before. I've had a few girlfriends. I've dated Indian, non-Indian too. all of the women I've dated were on similar career paths. so how would that be shameful to a family? SO WHAT?

I don't know if this is the hypocrisy you guys are talking about but I work hard and play hard. I have not gotten into any trouble from it nor do I do anything illegal. I have never done any drugs.

I have gone to some desi parties, but I generally don't like them because of the new come on of the thuglife Indian posse's. It doesn't bother me, i find it comical. Yeah and people drink there and probably meet up for casual sex.

But the point is you can't exactly control what your kids do. Indian parents who didn't realize this should not come to the united states. But then again, your kids would miss out on the opportunities we have here.

Another point to consider is that India isn't exactly a saintland. AIDS runs rampant there. Drugs are rampant there too. I know many Indian (from India) alcohoics. They have the same problems over there.

My point is that I believe I am an exception. I like to drink and date women. Just because you do things Indian parents wouldn't approve of doesn't make you a problem child. Most Indian youth here in the United states are what I would consider to be "successful" even if they like to drink or have sex.

Two movies I would urge all Indian parents to watch are:

1) American Chai - easily obtainable at Netflix or blockbuster

2) Saalam Bombay - all about drug problem in India.
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xx Re: What exactly is a "problem" child?
« Reply #1 on: Sep 9th, 2005, 12:16am »

Even if most are successful the wrong things you do are watch by the person above (Lord) and he may try to snatch your successes to teach you a lesson!!
So try to respect the Lord and realise He is not happy at the world today! Think about the Lord's feelings and thoughts too!
In that case, sucess can mean nothing if you live a life of having premartial relations and excessive drinks and drugs and so forth.
I say try to live the best Good life as you can, now that's called living a Sucessful Life!

Remember this famous saying.....
"God's Gift to you is Life, What You Do In Your Life is your Gift to God."

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xx Re: What exactly is a "problem" child?
« Reply #2 on: Sep 14th, 2005, 1:56pm »

The last time I checked no God in most of the major religions of the world is judging you purely on your actions (including Hinduism). God is not venegeful, and I'm sure that he/she is not taking very kindly your implication that he/she is. Each person has their own idea of what "success" constitutes.

We all go through various stages in our lives. So, I think that it's rather unfortunate that you are casting stones when I'm sure that you cannot say with a true heart and a clear conscience that you have NEVER done anything of which God would disapprove.

I would rather be a person who is pure in thought than someone who is pure in action but not thought. A true God sees what is in one's heart and mind, and understands your true nature.
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