Welcome to Assisted Match Making
« Thread started on: Apr 22nd, 2010, 09:37am »
Here is my template when two willing participants join our process. Any suggestions will be welcome ~ Vijay Uncle
Welcome to Assisted Match Making.
I think it would be a good idea for both of you to explore the possibility with our assisted match making process. Please add each other as friends on Facebook if you have not already done so. This will let you see a lot of pictures of each other. (You can always un-friend each other should you not click!) Once you have a chance to look at all the info at Facebook
As you know the process of finding the right one and taking it to finish line has never been harder for desi men and women.
Here is my humble effort to make a difference.
Share any profile you may have on Shaadi or other sites. Study about the background of each other before you even speak. Then at a convenient time for both of you engage in evaluation of each other on the phone. Keep me posted.
I encourage both of you to stay focused on the mission. It is important to address the challenges facing both of you. Feel free to discuss any issues you see coming up as you take your relationship to the destination.
No question is out of bound. What we all agree is that "time is a terrible thing to waste." While I would never advocate hasty decision I would definitely caution against wasting time. Basically whatever information you need you should develop a way of extracting as fast as possible.
Please check out my link about the kind of questions you may want to think about in 'infra red dating.' If you have any more ideas to add to the list do let me know.
One of your mission is to sell your self. Regardless of 'I did not have chemistry' if you can not sell your self - it may be a sign of some problems with you and it will help us to find that out. So many times I hear that he did not like her (but he does not know that she did not like him either!!!)
I would appeal to both of you to give me weekly or biweekly updates as to where the process is going or not going. If you hit any road bumps - which more likely than not will show up - feel free to share with me.
I think both parties are better served by a transparent process. Honest feed back is most valuable part of the process.
I also caution against spreading your self too thin. So at any given time please invest all your resources in one candidate at time. This does not mean you do not go out and look for more prospects.
Let us do a conference call and let me know what time you will be free (Vijay Uncle is fee practically anytime - he has no life . )
Since this is a work in progress many a times it may be confusing. Feel free to contact me by email or phone if you have any questions, concerns or suggestions. good luck