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« Thread started on: Aug 14th, 2010, 1:18pm »

Vijay Uncle,

What's your opinion on an interracial relationship? Can it work? What should be discussed before we decide to take the relationship to a more serious level? He's Spanish and I'm Indian.

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« Reply #1 on: Sep 12th, 2010, 9:04pm »

Any dating once you are beyond the 'booty call' phase has to keep the sight on long term prospects.

Of course, it could work. The trick lies in not being in wishful thinking mode but be realistic. Merging of two independent lives are hard enough add two different cultures and religions and things can get a lot more complicated.

During the infra red dating you need to explore how you plan to deal with family and friends who choose to sabotage your relationships. How do you plan to raise your kids etc.

You need to discuss these challenges early on and also get the feel of how your family would react. There are too many guys and gals who grossly underestimate the hostile reaction from parents and family.

My biggest problem is that such enterprise burn up so much of your valuable time and if it fails you are left emotionally bruised.

But, if the guy is right as a total package you need to explore it and let the chips fall where they may. With so many of our highly accomplished women struggling these days it would be definitely wrong to let a guy go just because he is not Indian.I call it 'go global' approach.

Good luck.
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« Reply #2 on: Feb 17th, 2011, 7:03pm »

Inter-racial is white vs black, while inter-faith is one religion to another. Let me cover on interfaith.

Thirty eight percent of marriages of Hindus, Jains and Sikhs (Dharmics) in America are to Christians, Jews and Muslims (Abrahamics). Forty five percent of Muslims in America marry to non-Muslims. However, there is a limited tolerance for Hindus and Hindu practices of praying multiple forms of the God in Abrahamics’ exclusivist supremacist monotheist religious beliefs. For this exact reason they expect conversion of the Hindu spouse. It is unbelievable but still true today that many marriages in Christian churches and to a Muslim there is a must requirement for religious conversion of Hindus by Baptism or Shahadah, respectively, to the faith of intended spouse. In some cases, a Christian or Jew may not ask for a religious conversion for marriage but will certainly ask to declare the interfaith child as a Christian by Christening/Baptism or Jew by Bris circumcision ceremony, respectively.

So before considering interfaith relationships, the first question to ask if there is any expectation of Baptism, Bris or Sunat for a child by this marriage? If the answer is yes, it is time to walk away. visit www.Interfaithshaadi.org for tons of information and blogs.

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« Reply #3 on: May 5th, 2011, 09:47am »

Interracial love relations can be more tempting, because there are less social and religious barriers. Almost all my lovers were white people, both man and woman. I am more bisexual and of Hindustani origin, born in Surinam.

It is easier to communicate with other races if you are a hindu and if you mix it is better I think. Most hindu people are small and weak, so mixing with bigger races is better. Also I do not find Hindu men very strong and intelligent, so it is better if Hindu girls consider mass mixing with long and intelligent white men.

Ok, in some way I find the hindu race a very weak and inferior race and that's why I promote mixing most of them with white people.

But anyhow love must tell the story of your life and love must prevail. Follow your heart and feelings and see where you will end.

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« Reply #4 on: Sep 30th, 2011, 11:01pm »

Interfaith Marriages: It is a part of our new life; face it!

In the Western world, it is quite common for young adults date someone from another faith during their college years; therefore it should come as no surprise that about a third of our young generation of Hindus (Jains and Sikhs) marry Christians, Jews and Muslims (Abrahamics) in America. This rate is expected to increase over years.

There appears to be a large gap between the expectations of Hindu parents and their children about the child’s choice of a life-mate. Thus, in almost all cases where an Abrahamic life partner is selected, the decision is made by Hindu young adults without pre-emptive advice, guidance, or consultation with their parents. Since most Hindus are not sufficiently knowledgeable about the Abrahamic faiths and how they differ from Hindu dharma, they are not well equipped to guide their young adults in this critical time resulting in irrational arguments about the decision.

In the predominantly first generation immigrant Hindu community, some parents, whose child has not married, may snicker at others whose child has a non-Hindu spouse without realizing that it could also happen in their own home later. Interfaith marriage is a matter of chance, and does not necessarily reflect the Hindu religious training given in childhood. On the other side, parents with interfaith marriage in their home are reluctant to share their sour experience of dealing with Abrahamic in-laws, resulting in loss of knowledge for the benefit of our community.

One of the most critical questions that has to be addressed in any interfaith relationship is: What will be the religion of the children by this marriage? A Hindu must ask… Is there any expectation of religious “label” to be placed on the child(ren) by Baptism (Christian), Bris (Jew) or Sunat (Muslim)? Some other issues to address are: expectation of religious conversion of Hindu before marriage, first names of children, son’s circumcision for religious reason even though there is no compelling scientific merit to it, and any reservation by the Abrahamic intended spouse to be a part of Hindu worship practice of pooja and the display of Hindu Ishwara icons in home.

Baptism, Bris or Sunat as a ritual is not an issue, but the thought process behind asking for it is a concern. The Bible states more than 30 times that LORD their God is a Jealous and Angry God and will not tolerate praying to “other gods.” Are Lord Krishna and Goddess Laxmi other gods? Further, Christians and Muslims are taught that only believers in their faith will achieve salvation or others will get Hell of Fire on the Judgment Day. Does it mean Mahatma Gandhiji will go to hell?

Not all Abrahamics impose their religious beliefs and practices on their Hindu spouse, but it is critical to find out facts sooner than later. It is also important to note that despite all the potential marital pitfalls, a successful and fulfilling inter-religious marriage is possible, ideally, by not imposing ones respective religious beliefs on the other partner.

Considering all these issues stated above and to help better prepare Hindu community to face Abrahamics in marriage relationships, a new web forum www.InterfaithShaadi.org has been created. Regarding the selection of a life-mate, even he or she is a Hindu, Christian, Jew or Muslim, it is hoped that young adults will make an “informed” decision.
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« Reply #5 on: Nov 22nd, 2011, 05:12am »

It sounds great that a new web forum www.InterfaithShaadi.org has been created for resolving this interracial relationship....Hope it will work great..
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